Tips for Parents

Here are some useful tips that will help you build a closer relationship with your child:

  • Be an attentive listener, listen to understand not to simply reply and be fully present when your child is talking to you. Allow your child to feel comfortable enough to speak to you in the first place.
  • Encourage them to chase their dreams and be supportive of their goals.
  • Don’t be ignorant of signs that your child could be experiencing hardships, do all you can to get help for them when needed.
  • Always prioritise yours and your child’s safety first.
  • Make communication a priority.
  • Be a role model for your children.
  • Remember that discipline is not punishment.
  • Understand that, everything both good and bad your child experiences from a young age will affect the quality of their life going forward.

Case Studies

Have a read of these case studies, which show you how some troubled teens turned things around for the best, with help from the VYG.

“As a mother, you always try to do your best for your children. Matthew was a happy child, but things changed when he became a teen. He started drinking, using drugs and mixing with a bad crowd. At the Universal Church, I received the inner strength to fight for my son and slowly but surely, I got my Matthew back! Today, he is a joyful son who brings me happiness and no longer is a cause for worry.” 

 Rosemar Castro

I was taught that, in order to be happy again, I had to first let go of the things that were having a negative effect on me – people, addictions, grudges – and choose to forgive. I had to let go of all the emotional baggage that I had carried over the years. It wasn’t easy because that’s how I had been living for a very long time, but I knew it was the only way for me to be free.

Gradually, I began to see a change in me; I realised that I was no longer angry or craving weed, and I didn’t need anything to make me fall asleep because I began to sleep peacefully. I no longer felt like ending my life, and my family also began to notice a huge change in me.

I continued working on myself, and I can say that, today, I am completely different. Now, I wake up ready for whatever challenge comes my way. I have peace and happiness that comes from within me. There has also been a great improvement in my relationship with my family; we can now all be in the same room without wanting to kill each other, and when problems do arise, I no longer lash out – my reaction is totally different. I know this is only the beginning for me’.

 Karry Barreto

“We didn’t accept to lose our son, Uyi to drugs and alcohol, especially seeing that he was away at university. We started determining that God will intervene in his life in such a way that we will see a change in him. Today, our son is now free from his old life, he graduated from university, works at a consultancy company specialising in technology and is happily married.” 

Efe and Tombi Eghobamien 

“As a mother, you always try to do your best for your children. Matthew was a happy child, but things changed when he became a teen. He started drinking, using drugs and mixing with a bad crowd. At the Universal Church, I received the inner strength to fight for my son and slowly but surely, I got my Matthew back! Today, he is a joyful son who brings me happiness and no longer is a cause for worry.” 

 Rosemar Castro